My name is Tamara, I am 25 years old, and throughout my teenage years and becoming an adult I have experienced many forms of judgment. A lot of the questions I get asked by people is why am I not yet married? What am I waiting for? And why am I not pulling my weight in making it happen faster?
And with my answer to that question comes a strange look, almost like people feel sorry for me. Yet ironically people believe everything is “naseeb” or God’s will. I have nothing against marriage; on the contrary I respect the institute of wedlock and whoever chooses to take apart in it. But the thing is, I don’t want to get married for the sake of it, or because people believe it’s the right thing to do. What is the point of getting married if it’s not with someone who is right for you? Women get pushed into all kinds of arranged marriages just because “it’s time” yet the family members fail to see or deliberately ignore the elevating divorce rates that are sky high! Our culture has for centuries believed in arranged marriages and though I can’t delete it from society I can choose not to be a part of that particular game where every decision is made for me as soon as I say yes. I don’t want to be a statistic of failed marriages nor unhappy ones. I am an adult and I am not getting younger, but I can safely say that any decision I do make now with the experience and mentality I gained will guide me into making a better and healthier choice than any I would have made when I was younger, but our society unfortunately doesn’t accept it, I’m proud of being different but nothing comes cheap in our society
My question is, do females in the US feel pressured into getting married just because they are the right age? Is it a choice taken solely on your own? And how influential are parents in affecting your choices.